SexInChurch's Datingish

It's either Gay or Homeless, Son

Mon, 31 Aug 2009 01:33:19 GMT

I grew up in a Jamaican Family and I guess the best euphemism for how Jamaicans, especially older ones, feel about homosexuals is that we are not exactly "gay-friendly." In fact, TIME magazine called Jamaica "The Most Homophobic Place on Earth."

Ouch.

So it was no surprise when my cousin came out of the closet, that he was shown the door. Combined with yelling, screaming, cursing, police and beatings it was pretty mild than what I thought would have happened:

What would you do if your kid was gay?

Childless and Happy.

Thu, 06 Aug 2009 11:38:36 GMT

I watched The Orphan last night and I am more convinced than ever that kids are something I don't want in my life.

I met many people with the same views as me, young and old, who decide that children are just not for them. As a matter of fact there are forums dedicated to this topic: http://www.experienceproject.com/groups/Am-Childless-By-Choice/68476. I don't think it's that abnormal anymore. There are billions of people on this planet, by me not procreating am I really making any kind of impact? Apparently other people think so. The things I really hate hearing are...

You'll want kids one day.

Right... because even in the 21st century, my only purpose on this planet is to have children. If I don't I am not living up to standards and I will be without.

Or...

Your future husband will have you change your mind.

So either my future husband is going to force me to have kids or I will just open my uterus for him. Because after I'm married, my body is no longer mine (I have no control over it) it's his, therefore when he says "pop out the babies" I will oblige. Also, I will take care of them and the house because that's what good housewives do.

I understand that it's a foreign concept but I just feel like having kids is a huge responsibility not to be taken lightly. SO if you're not ready why have them? Wouldn't it be better to wait until you can and want to have them?

Do you want kids? How many? Why?

Popping the Cherry

Wed, 05 Aug 2009 17:45:00 GMT

Many people wait until they are married to have relations.

But I can't help but think how awkward it must feel for the girl:
A. It's probably going to hurt
B. It's probably going to be awkward because you are not going to know what you are doing
C. If he's a virgin too, neither is he.

I just have this image of the wedding night being this awkward situation where you are copying what you think you know about sex with blood all over the hotel sheets. Are you waiting until marriage, why? And if not is it because of what I said or were you just eager to get it over with?

Thongs are Not just for Guys

Wed, 29 Jul 2009 14:07:13 GMT

This is a response to bmxgirl165@xanga.com post on thongs:
http://www.mancouch.com/708377980/young-not-quite-sexy-buttfloss/?ref=xn

It really irks me when people think that fashion, makeup etc. are done solely to please members of the opposite sex.

Although I understand that some (most?) girls do it to make guys like them more (or quite specifically lust after them more.) Sometimes, it's innocent and for us and not just them. It's proven that when you think you look good or when you think you look sexy, you exude more confidence. You feel better about yourself. Why should I wear granny panties when thongs look sexier (even if it's only to me.) As Mike said to Abby in The Ugly Truth, "If you don't want to have sex with yourself, why would Collin?"

Do you wear sexy lingerie and clothes to make yourself feel better/confident or am I the only strange one in the room?

Dating with Kids

Tue, 28 Jul 2009 21:26:57 GMT

Although most people would agree that it would be nice to get married before having kids, this is not often to be the case. More and more singles are raising children by themselves and I have to ask, I wonder what their dating life is like. Definitely it would be harder because most parents would want to put their kids' first and want to date people who not only like them, but also their kids. My mom (who is a single mom) always says that if I hate him, it would be very difficult to get the two of them to the altar. Many men would not date a girl with kids, thinking that she's a floozy and what not. Would you? Would you date a person with kids, knowing full well if you two got married that you're going to have built-in children?

She Deserved it

Tue, 28 Jul 2009 13:46:51 GMT

My best friend went to a party and got completely drunk. She was stumbling, screaming and lying on her back with her legs in the air and dancing on the host's father (who enjoyed it, if I do say so myself :) But in the middle of the party, one of the guys she was dancing with asked her to go on a "walk" and then proceeded to try and sleep with her in the woods.

My guy friends say she deserved it. She was setting herself up for that and well that's what she got. If she wasn't drunk and acting skanky then no guy would have done that. Is it ever OK to proposition a girl to have sex if she's "asking for it" (i.e. either by dress, action or intoxication?)

She got the Herpes

Fri, 17 Jul 2009 11:15:25 GMT

This morning I woke up to an interesting text.

And it said this:

Don't touch this girl, she got herpes. She gave it to me and now I'm screwed for life. She may be cute and she may be handing out the p*** like hotcakes but it's not worth it, believe me. (And it had a picture of the girl.)

Assuming it's true, is it right to warn others about people with STIs? Spread the information so other people can avoid getting it or leave people's private lives' alone?

Friday, July 17, 2009

Fri, 17 Jul 2009 11:12:04 GMT

Hi everyone! I'm just getting started on Datingish... Drop me a comment if you've got some ideas on what to do first - or just to say, "Hi!"